It was approximately two years ago that I learned about sponge personalities for the first time, and why my thoughts were so confusing because they weren't truly mine. During the conversation, I felt a big hole in my chest, but I also felt significantly lighter.
I learned to look deeper into my own thoughts and have trust in my own reality. How can you refuse to acknowledge your own reality? It happens from time to time. Other people lie to us about who we are, what we do, and what we are supposed to do, think, or feel without being aware of it. And we believe them.
We sometimes tell ourselves lies to make life simpler. We transfer responsibility to someone else. We tell ourselves, out of fear, that we are on the right track, making the right decisions. And those kinds of decisions frequently depend on the opinions of other individuals, which we then accept as our very own. Without even questioning them.
Learning how to UNLEARN certain beliefs, ideas, or even facts that you've been living with for a long time is one of the most challenging tasks in life.
Many of us recognize how vital it is to reflect on and amend our prior decisions to ensure we are acting in accordance with our actual, inner self as time passes.
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